I'm not sure of the line in one of Drake's raps, but it says something about not being able to find someone who hasn't been with everybody.
To me, it is an interesting phenomenon because it seems like everybody has been with everybody. And it's not like they had any type of lasting relationship...it was just diggity. Wham, bam...or ooochie cooochie cause I'm horny. LOLOLOLOLO
But I have to caution women and yep, men too...nobody wants to be with someone that everybody has been with. One more time...NO ONE wants to be with a person that everybody has laid down with...get it...got it...good.
OK, let's quantify everybody. For a man, I will give a slight pass because men can be a bit more promiscuous than women and it not be a terrible, terrible thing....wowsa did I say that? Yep, I said it!
Dating is sooooo interesting to me. If you date a person who has never been married ummmmm get ready...but if you date a person who is divorced, their numbers can add up too. As a matter of fact, my jaw has dropped at the number of people some have dated and slept with. I've thought about giving a few people T-shirts that read: I have dated and I have slept with just about everybody....LOLOLOLOLOL
Truly, I have to say it's a major turnoff. There is nothing worse than going out with a guy who has slept with half of the city and dated the other half of the single population.
I went out with one guy and I knew he had been out here and there and everywhere, but I said what the heckypoo, I'm just going on a date. But then I started thinking this is a big ole waste of my time because I can't get pass the fact that he has been with soooooooooooooooo many people, so let me grab my purse and take my arse home.
I do think it is worse, however, when a woman who has been with half the single population. And I have to say that being loose as a goose may contribute to why she hasn't landed a fella who wants to marry her...IJS...Again, who wants someone who everybody has been with?
With that said, and being honest, would you date a guy or girl who has really been around town...Would it bother you if you knew five or ten people she or he has done the oochie cooochie with? Be honest.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Monday, February 14, 2011
Valentine's: Single Awareness Day Or Love Day
I recently became aware that singles call Valentine's Day...Singles Awareness Day or SAD.
But what is truly sad to me is that singles would assign such an acronym to a day that is supposed to be a day to celebrate love. And yea, I know some people out there do NOT believe in Valentine's Day and don't celebrate and that yadda, yadda bull-ish but to call it Singles Awareness Day?
February has come to represent a crucial time in my life...Four years ago, I was still married and had decided, along with my ex, that we were going to start a family...I was 35 and thinking that my biological clock was a ticking time bomb. I was consumed with reading everything about a woman's cycle and fertility and pregnancy. Stressed out and intense... and it did not happen.
A year later, I was in court...albeit Divorce Court...my life had been flipped upside down...Everything as I knew my life was changing and changing and changing.
Two years later, I was unemployed and wondering what was around the corner for me. I was wondering where would I land after I stepped out on my faith and decided not to reapply for a job that I had been on for 11 years. I flew out of Cleveland on Valentine's Day for an interview in Chicago at Sears Roebuck. I was being transported in a limo from the airport and wishing and hoping that I could land what I thought would be a dream job in the Windy City.
And ahhhh this year, I am gainfully employed and have been chosen to attend an out-of-state conference to represent my agency.
While in church yesterday, my pastor preached on "Standing On God's Promises." His message also spoke on the importance of having faith.
Although I would love, love, love to be in a good, healthy, fun, loving, solid relationship, with one or two children, there is nothing SAD about my life ... and yea, it just happens to be in a single state at this moment. But I am standing on God's promise to take care of his child and have the right man, who will have nice teeth and arms LOLOLOL ...Be tall, considerate, loving, kind, fun, drama-free, ambitious, family-oriented and most importantly -- God fearing.
Sadly, a lot of people, single people, have things confused. Being with another person doesn't make one happy. You make you happy!
With that said, I embrace every aspect of my life...it is preparing me for that perfect guy for me -- there's nothing SAD about my relationship status.
I am right where I am supposed to be...where I should be on this day of love. So if you are single don't waddle in self pity...celebrate it...Get to know that most important person in your life...YOU!
Happy Valentine's Day!
But what is truly sad to me is that singles would assign such an acronym to a day that is supposed to be a day to celebrate love. And yea, I know some people out there do NOT believe in Valentine's Day and don't celebrate and that yadda, yadda bull-ish but to call it Singles Awareness Day?
February has come to represent a crucial time in my life...Four years ago, I was still married and had decided, along with my ex, that we were going to start a family...I was 35 and thinking that my biological clock was a ticking time bomb. I was consumed with reading everything about a woman's cycle and fertility and pregnancy. Stressed out and intense... and it did not happen.
A year later, I was in court...albeit Divorce Court...my life had been flipped upside down...Everything as I knew my life was changing and changing and changing.
Two years later, I was unemployed and wondering what was around the corner for me. I was wondering where would I land after I stepped out on my faith and decided not to reapply for a job that I had been on for 11 years. I flew out of Cleveland on Valentine's Day for an interview in Chicago at Sears Roebuck. I was being transported in a limo from the airport and wishing and hoping that I could land what I thought would be a dream job in the Windy City.
And ahhhh this year, I am gainfully employed and have been chosen to attend an out-of-state conference to represent my agency.
While in church yesterday, my pastor preached on "Standing On God's Promises." His message also spoke on the importance of having faith.
Although I would love, love, love to be in a good, healthy, fun, loving, solid relationship, with one or two children, there is nothing SAD about my life ... and yea, it just happens to be in a single state at this moment. But I am standing on God's promise to take care of his child and have the right man, who will have nice teeth and arms LOLOLOL ...Be tall, considerate, loving, kind, fun, drama-free, ambitious, family-oriented and most importantly -- God fearing.
Sadly, a lot of people, single people, have things confused. Being with another person doesn't make one happy. You make you happy!
With that said, I embrace every aspect of my life...it is preparing me for that perfect guy for me -- there's nothing SAD about my relationship status.
I am right where I am supposed to be...where I should be on this day of love. So if you are single don't waddle in self pity...celebrate it...Get to know that most important person in your life...YOU!
Happy Valentine's Day!
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